"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work
through the painful experiences that require
it." -- Christiane Northrup
"We must let ourselves feel all the painful
destruction we want to forgive rather than
swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we
cannot choose to forgive it." -- Kenneth McNoll
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it
does enlarge the future." -- Paul Boese
"As long as you don't forgive, who and whatever
it is will occupy rent-free space in your mind."
-- Isabelle Holland
"Light burdens borne far become heavy." --
French proverb
"Forgiveness will never fail to free you." --
Jerrold Mundis |
|
How do we
forgive when we're angry and hurt?
To forgive, we do not have to say that
whatever happened was okay. It wasn't okay -
we were hurt! In fact, before we can
forgive, we need to allow ourselves to
really feel the pain of what happened. If we
don't fully acknowledge and experience our
hurts, we will continue to carry them
subconsciously and they will block and drain
our energy.
The blessing is that when we're really ready
to experience our pain and we open to it, it
usually eases. By honouring our pain, we can
release it.
To forgive, we need to decide that we won't
allow the memories of the event to poison us
any longer. We're ready to heal this wound
from the past and open to a fresh new
beginning.
And it helps to remember that people only
hurt others when they themselves are in
pain. When we can recognize the other
person's suffering, our heart can open in
compassion. We can also remember that at
some time or another, we too have hurt
someone through our own unskilful action.
Only love can heal the rifts caused by a
hurtful deed. Forgiveness holds immense
power because it mends separation. It moves
us towards the unity and love that lie at
the core of our being. It is a fundamental
part of the healing process.
|
